I just found out* that all the pictures and information I share with BioDad are being leaked to BioMom. This is very much not okay with me. Some of the information being shared is a security risk for my family. I’m sad and angry. We’ve had to make a decision that contact with BioDad stops, since he is in a relationship with BioMom and sees her daily. We had no idea they were spending so much time together.
I still shake my head at how I thought I’d have an open adoption, and yet it clearly needs to be closed, at least for the forseeable future. It’s funny how life often has other plans, very different than the ones you had in mind.
*BioDad freely shared this information with me on the phone the other day. I guess he didn’t think I’d have a problem with it. (Which is another reason why we have to make changes. He clearly doesn’t get it.)