I have a dear friend living in my guesthouse. He’s been there for a couple of weeks, and we’ve been friends almost 25 years. He’s going through a rough relationship patch, and needed a place to stay. We gave him through the 26th of this month.
I’m having a hard time staying out of the fray. I think he and his wife are toxic for each other, and it’s hard for me to keep my mouth shut when people I love are being railroaded. Even harder is the fact that I can see and sense things differently than others, and I can pick up intentions behind actions.
It’s been difficult for me to try and stay separate, to let him learn his lessons free from my input. The chaos that swirls in my backyard and the constant back and forth are too close to home. As much as I want to give my friend a safe haven, I’m finding that protecting myself energetically has to be a higher priority. It will be a good day for both of us when he has a long term plan and begins to follow through with it, to move into his future instead of being stuck in this half-way place.
I don’t know what will happen for C. I don’t know what choice he will ultimately make in his relationship, although I think I know what would be best for all involved in this case. I also realize that he is paralyzed with fear and overwhelmed by the changes being thrown his way. I just hope I am able to continue to do my best for both of us without drowning in the mud that’s being thrown.